Many years ago my husband was a pastor. He served two small churches. Cultural issues spawned conflict. In one church the people were suspicious of outsiders and afraid of change. We were outsiders, and we advocated some changes. They approached conflict in a confrontational way that was not compatible with my husband’s style of coping and resolution. In the other church the people did not want to rock the boat and kept the peace at all costs. Their expectations were not verbalized or communicated. These cultural issues made it difficult for my husband to do the work of the ministry and made him vulnerable to failure. Ultimately his expectations and mode of operation were in opposition to the leadership and collision bound. In my story, Beginning Again, (see the book page of this blog) I share how the small church spiritual conflict impacted our marriage adversely.