The Lord Jesus yielded His will to the will of His Heavenly Father and gave His life for you and me. He challenged His followers to pick up their crosses and follow Him.
St. Paul said, “I have been crucified with Christ and I no longer live, but Christ lives in me. The life I live in the body, I live by faith in the Son of God, who loved me and gave himself for me.” Galatians 2:20
A healthy marriage requires two mature people who are both willing to yield to the other. A Christian marriage has the advantage of a dynamic not known by the world at large. That dynamic is the Holy Spirit who lives in each believer.
Surrender is one of the doors of Christian faith. Surrender to the will of Jesus required my husband to repent. Surrender to the will of Jesus required my forgiveness. This kind of surrender is not possible by human effort; it is the work of the Holy Spirit.
You can read about the surrender in my marriage on the book page of this blog.